INTJ and ENFP - "the golden pair"
A lot of people have wondered why Niki Lauda and James Hunt became such good friends despite having polar opposite personalities. Even Niki himself said he didn't know why he and James clicked so easily. So I've decided to present an MBTI take on it by using quotes from various sources.
ENFP & INTJ - honesty, loyalty, humor, one is strong where the other is weak
Niki // INTJ: introverted, intuitive, thinking, judging
James // ENFP: extroverted, intuitive, feeling, perceiving
ENFPs are curious, sensitive, trusting, fun, and popular. INTJs are thoughtful, deliberate, honest, socially awkward, but have integrity and inner strength. INTJs are the anchor in stormy weather, and ENFPs are the sails for high adventure. They both have a mutual need to be alone or independent at times, but they make a great team as they both respect people with hearts of gold. (x)
Each type’s auxiliary cognitive function is the other’s tertiary. That means there is an ease of understanding between the two of them. They both find a mutual dislike of the mundane aspects of life and will frequently look to “shake things up”. This friendship can be electrifying and helps each counterpart grow in new, exciting ways.
Why are ENFPs and INTJs an ideal pair?
ENFPs and INTJs may only share one letter preference in common (N for intuition) however, they share two common cognitive functions; Introverted Feeling and Extraverted Thinking. (x)
INTJs like to make sense of everything (and everyone) and an ENFP is an exciting challenge to say the least.
INTJs are fluid in thought and in conversation. It's an absolute breath of fresh air for an ENFP that spends most of their time engulfed by high electric mental surges.
Growth and attraction: one is strong where the other is weak.
INTJs are drawn to the ENFP’s warm, outgoing nature, and enthusiasm. ENFPs are naturally playful, open-minded, and have a good sense of humor. ENFPs, in turn, are drawn to the INTJs resolve, intellectual passion, and driven nature. INTJs have an intense focus and a natural efficiency and goal-oriented nature that is captivating to the ENFP. (x)
INTJs tend to harbor a dark side, whether in the form of emotions that they have a hard time/avoid exploring or a more intellectual dark side. ENFPs are truly unafraid of the dark. Their natural curiosity and unrelenting positivity draws them to the INTJ; the Ne desire to explore is overpowering for an ENFP when intrigued. Nothing will stop an ENFP from investigating once their attention is captured. The INTJ in turn is thrown off by the disarming level of openness ENFPs offer - it’s a true case of opposites attract. One is drawn to the mysterious, the other to the uncapped effusiveness. (x)
The ENFP and INTJ each have a different tolerance for social situations. There is a balance between heart and head with these personality types and each of you can help the other become a better, more well-rounded person. Once you’ve breached the “getting to know you” phase, the INTJ can be the ENFP’s favorite sounding board and the ENFP will become the INTJ’s greatest cheerleader.
ENFPs are attracted to the INTJ's solitary confidence, honest outlook of the corrupted world, unique ideals, passion, hard work, and charmingly witty sense of humor. Despite being extroverts, ENFPs enjoy non-awkward mutual silence, exactly like INTJs. But when the pair of them do talk, it is never shallow - they are always leaving the shore.
The Intellectual Dream Team
The ENFP and INTJ are the intellectual dream team. The ENFP’s main cognitive function acts as a tireless idea-generator and the INTJ’s main cognitive function optimizes ideas. They can be an unstoppable force for innovation.
When the two work in concert with each other, a wonderful combination of morality, ethics, and objective logic can be applied to any problem. When the two are out of sync with each other, the INTJ will see the ENFP as a head-in-the-clouds idealist who doesn’t understand how the real world works and the ENFP will see the INTJ as a stone-cold bastard who doesn’t give two shakes for their fellow human beings.
The ENFP and INTJ will quickly click as their conversations focus on impressions, ideas, opinions, and theories.
Similar Mindset
INTJs and ENFPs are going to hit it off and experience a natural spark because they will both live and thrive in the world of ideas, possibilities, and meanings. The INTJ may feel that the ENFP is speaking out loud intuitive thoughts and feelings that they have internalized. The ENFP may feel that the INTJ is grasping a deeper and more focused approach and insight into their ideas and possibilities, causing them to have a clearer focus and perception themselves.
For both the ENFP and INTJ, discovering new things is extremely important. In fact, when they first meet it can feel refreshing to talk with someone at length about deep ideas rather than the small-talk they both dread. This mutual connection over life-long learning and a refusal to take ideas at face-value can act as a fantastic relationship base.
Good Communication...most of the time.
They both appreciate direct and honest communication.
The ENFP is clearly an Extrovert, so expressing inner thoughts and ideas happens more naturally than it does for the INTJ. The upside to this communication dynamic is the INTJ sometimes feels happy to let the ENFP carry the conversation. It puts less pressure on them to come up with something to say and allows the INTJ more mental energy to break down the ideas presented to them by the ENFP. It’s a great combo, until the INTJ feels steamrolled by the ENFP. (x)
It’s the chemistry of the mystery in meeting someone totally opposite of ourselves, yet oddly bonding. Imagine that you have lived all your life perceiving the world through a different lens than most people. Everyone around you is boring because they all think the same. You ask yourself, 'How can they all be like that? Why doesn't anyone think for themselves?’ Then in comes along an ENFP. Someone who is as weird and quirky as yourself, but with better social skills. Finally, you have found someone who actually fulfills you.
A healthy ENFP helps an INTJ grow.
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