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Another reminder from your friendly (and favourite) neighbourhood gymbro:
Take rest days. In fact, days of rest make you stronger, not weaker!
When you rest, your body can have the chance to repair and get stronger. So often, rest days are characterized as "laziness" when, in fact, they are integral to your betterment and health.
If you do not take rest days, your body will schedule them for you (and it will not be fun). Rest days are just as valuable as working-out days.
Periodic reminder from your friendly neighbourhood gymbro: The work you put in will come back. If you modify your workouts, the reward will still come to you.
So do knee pushups (no, we're not calling them "girl pushups"). Do weight machines. Put the resistance or weight low on machines.
The reward of fitness still benefits you because fitness is not a punishment. It should never be used or seen as a punishment for existing. Fitness is just... part of existence for many of us. However your fitness looks is fine. Don't let the broader fitness culture tell you that you need to do things their way. You'll be fine with what you're doing. If you stop needing modifications as you start doing more intense workouts, great! But if you never stop using modifications, then that's fine because fitness isn't a punishment or admittance of failure.
#anti fitness culture#anti diet culture#positivity#gentle reminders#genuinely i only started seeing more rapid gains once i stopped lifting and going to the gym five times a week#my thighs and my bisceps are bigger now AND i can lift more NOW compared to then#and my heart and lungs are thanking me too#i love the gym and i love being a gymbro. however i hate gym culture. i want you all to love the gym too#gym culture ≠ the gym
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I went to Beautiful Transsexualland. Everyone said they knew you💛💛
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#mtf#nonbinary#trans meme#unreality tw#(but i know you all are beautiful)
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here's a transexual thursday for you to post: i hit two years on testosterone last week and i am absolutely Covered in hair. I have a pretty full neckbeard (which I Love, btw, fuck the haters <3), chest hair, leg hair, arm hair, you name it. in fact, im so hairy that the hair from my beard just barely connects to the hair on my chest, down to the hair on my stomach, and over my crotch and legs. a few more years and i bet there will be very few hairless spots left on my body >:3
BIG shoutout to all my fellow hairy transexuals! my boyfriend loves how furry i am even with his sensory issues around loose hair, and if that isn't proof that people will love you for you beautiful hairy body, i don't know what is <33
Yes!!!! Hair💛💛💛
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Alright, today is Transsexual Thursday; put in the reblogs, tags, or on anon the things you have loved about your transness/transition/presentation/anything related to being trans! We can never have too much positivity about the joy of creation 💛
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Alright, today is Transsexual Thursday; put in the reblogs, tags, or on anon the things you have loved about your transness/transition/presentation/anything related to being trans! We can never have too much positivity about the joy of creation 💛
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I think so much of why I feel solidarity toward plenty of cis men is because I had to fight for my manhood viciously, I feel possessive of it because I love being a man, and I look around at cis men and to me, it feels like so many of them hate being men because of these pressures. It's definitely not the same, per se, as how women and other folk engage with gender through marginalization - however, I think many cis men hate the gendered expectations placed on them with as much fervency.
It is an odd phenomenon to love and feel liberated by the same thing that others hate in themselves. We often are under the impression that the experience of trans people and cis people of a similar gender are so different they cannot be related, but... Are we so different? Because when I hear about the problems cis men have with their manhood, how they struggle with societal pressure and hating manhood for it, I can't help but feel a kind of kinship because I, too, had to wrestle with these ideas and liberate myself away from the ideas of manhood that never wanted to see me thrive in the first place. And that isn't a trans-only problem.
As a trans man who has had to put painstaking work into body positivity, body neutrality, and my own sense of manhood, I can't help but feel so bad for men who have, seemingly, never felt permission to have any positive feelings about their body and their manhood.
Yes, body positivity and body neutrality are for you, men. You owe nobody washboard abs, or beautiful facial hair, or clear skin, or unblemished skin, or "masculine" features. Genuinely, you are under no obligation to perform any of it. The weight of those expectations is genuinely suffocating. Let yourself remove that yoke from your shoulders and actually live.
#body positivity#body neutrality#i'm only speaking about men and men's issue on this because i am a man and i don't think it's appropriate to speak...#...about other folks' perspectives in the way i talk about these topics (in an intimate way that reflects personal experience)#so this post is not trying to imply that only men deal with this#rather that men tend to try finding contentment with hating their manhood#this isn't meant as a 'they hate their manhood because they aren't men' but that is invariably what happens for some people
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As a trans man who has had to put painstaking work into body positivity, body neutrality, and my own sense of manhood, I can't help but feel so bad for men who have, seemingly, never felt permission to have any positive feelings about their body and their manhood.
Yes, body positivity and body neutrality are for you, men. You owe nobody washboard abs, or beautiful facial hair, or clear skin, or unblemished skin, or "masculine" features. Genuinely, you are under no obligation to perform any of it. The weight of those expectations is genuinely suffocating. Let yourself remove that yoke from your shoulders and actually live.
#body positivity#body neutrality#taking every man and person who may need to hear this by the hands and begging them to live for themselves#saying this as a gymbro who loves getting Built: you don't need to perform that for anybody but YOU
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Here's another one:
Going to places alone and learning to enjoy your own company. Being able to reliably deal with being in spaces with the assurance that you belong there on your own without needing someone else to make up for your presence is so moving.
I think so many people are so deeply alienated from themselves that they have no clue how to exercise their free will and autonomy. For some, this alienation runs so deep that they are afraid of their own autonomy and humanity. It is completely understandable why one would have those feelings, but it can be worrisome.
I want to help others who feel this way, so here are small things I have done to exercise my free will:
Add "guilty pleasure" songs to playlists and actually listen to them (I have a ton of late 1990s-early 2000s music I listen to now proudly that I never listened to in the past out of shame)
Getting the décor item, bath set, bed spread, ect. in the patterns you like, even if it's "childish" (I got a dinosaur-themed wastebasket from the kids' décor section and I adore it)
Taking a new route to get to a place you go to often
Eat dessert first
Celebrate well, and often
Collect things that are "odd" or don't seem like an "acceptable" thing to collect (somebody on my "for you" page collects dandelion crayola crayons and it was so cool!!!!!!)
Incorporate one new piece in an outfit you wear frequently (e.g., a new chain, a necklace, ribbons, bracelets, ect.). Challenge yourself to add onto the outfits if you feel up for it.
Sing along to songs without worrying that you sound "good" or your intonation is completely accurate
Read a book from a genre you weren't allowed to read as a kid (comics, thrillers, mysteries, anything!)
Walk without having a specific destination or goal
Pick up a new craft without expecting yourself to master it or to ever be "good" enough. Get your hands messy.
I don't want to shame anybody for not feeling as though they have free will or that they are exempt from exercising it. However, I wanted to give ideas so that you might read this list and find your own ways to express your intrinsic autonomy and will. You deserve to be a person, to feel alive, not just living. That is what our lives are for.
#mental health#mental health support#positivity#this is a big one for me#i went to the zoo by myself and that's one thing i like about being an adult#simultaneously i am very much a 'lone wolf' but i also felt i must shrink away when it cones to Existing Around Others
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r u chill w non transitioning ppl?
Why wouldn't I be? At one point, every trans person who is transitioning was once someone who wasn't (whether or not that was a choice or their need is a separate discussion).
Hatred of any kind of trans person is not a Righteous or Good Thing - every single trans person has their place, their entitlement to safety, community, and respect of who they are
#ask#anon#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#mtf#nonbinary#when i was a kid i cared way more about Earning a spot - about every trans person Proving ourselves#and then i grew up in many ways and experienced many unfortunate things - as a kid who couldn't transition nonetheless#that quickly sobered me to the reality that it doesn't matter what you do or don't do as a trans person#divided we fall. you canNOT give into the divide and conquer strategy - you will NEVER survive#the second you decide that some trans people are worth discarding entirely is the second you set a precedent#and that precedent will eventually choke you. that precedent WILL exclude you eventually#i think a lot of people end up in the place of You Have To Earn Your Spot because they think it will save them...#...those ridged requirements tell you what you need to do to Earn Being Alive...#...if there is no goal where you have earned unconditional respect and security what is there to do?#what would the point be? why should trans people even bother if we aren't guaranteed safety over all?#that misses the true foundation for so many of those requirements is control - not safety or respect#as i have transitioned medically i've learned so much about what the point is#in so many ways i have had really negative experiences because of transitioning - but the joy always outweighs the pain#that joy is what made it worth it
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I've been thinking about this more and more recently (or, rather, am letting myself think about it), and I've finally decided to start learning the languages some of my family would have spoken before emigrating and it's kind of crazy.
Children of more recent immigrants have said this so much better, but it's such a weird feeling to know that you can't speak the same language your family can or did. It's such a weird feeling - to be locked away from your own family, your own blood, and for so many people, it is a form of violence and even genocide done unto them.
Honestly, if you're a child who's got family who has or did have family who spoke languages you don't or can't... Learn them, if you can. It's a surreal experience, and it's kind of liberating, in a way. It's teaching me more about parts of my family, how they might have spoken to me if we had the chance to live in the same era.
#language#politics#it's an emotional experience#i am *not* saying the reason i don't speak my family's languages is because of genocide because that isn't true#but i would be remiss to not mention it because it's a big part of how people are separated from their culture or who they are#ripping families apart isn't necessarily done through direct/obvious (physical) violence...#...sometimes that violence is being UNABLE to communicate with family. that's partially why it's so important to talk about#but in terms of american history my family emigrated pretty recently. like only a few generations#so it feels even weirder to me knowing how recently they left the boat
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With how dangerous binding and tucking can be, it's wild to me that in so many ways, the onus of having your basic humanity respected often hinges on ensuring that you do whatever you can to minimize your body. And it's extra wild when you're told how nobody will respect you, but I have had plenty of interactions with (just to name a couple of examples) men who don't bind and women who don't pack, and it's actually so easy to engage with them without laser-focusing on their body.
I was always told that respect hinges on earning it - a trans person earns respect (see: people almost begrudgingly seeing and/or affirming who they are) when we prove ourselves. As a kid, I didn't have the financial or familial support to bind, so I used bandages. Like, I remember leaving class to take them off because I was in so much pain, and it just makes me think that there is a whole lot of difference between the workloads of trans people and certain others. I don't think putting my body in physical risk like that is the same mental and physical workload as... using a name, using pronouns, seeing the person and who they are.
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#mtf#nonbinary#transphobia#transphobia tw#honestly this is partially why i lost sympathy specifically for the almost concern trolling 'but its so much work so i just won't bother :(#and being on the other end where i have friends who don't 'conventionally earn respect' and it's still not an issue#yes not all binding and not all tucking (as examples) are super unsafe#but there ARE unsafe methods and so often people only focus on trans people DOING the binding/tucking regardless of the safety#so i'm again not sympathetic because i want people to be safe first and foremost
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I recently had to do a project in one of my psych classes, and man, I knew that CBT was used for every little thing, but seeing over and over, "do CBT! CBT is the best for every mental illness!" was so jarring. I'm absolutely biased because of my own experiences, but I just don't think it's as universal a treatment model as it's touted.
If you didn't benefit from CBT, it's not because you're lazy or didn't try hard enough or lacked intelligence or foresight into your own needs. Frankly, it's a therapy model that (I think) shouldn't be the only readily-accessible model and among the only therapy models covered by insurance. Some of us should not be treated in a CBT model and that's okay. It's not a sign of poor character or unreasonable demands, and if you don't think it's a model that works for you, then it's your right to express that!
#mental health#mental health advocacy#it was just so annoying because every resource i could access for this project often ONLY recommended cbt and#that just doesn't seem helpful for a good chunk of people#because i know i never benefitted from that model of therapy#obligatory: i am not against this therapy. me having a negative experience with it is not indicative that i believe it should be abolished'#if it works for you: KEEP DOING IT. cbt is not inherently harmful for MANY people and it's a good and valuable tool for many#but the overemphasis of cbt as the Only Therapy Model You Need sends this message that YOU failed...#...if you don't miraculously recover with that therapy model. it often feels like you'll Fail Recovery/Therapy and you're now a Bad Person#i've tried for over a decade to stick out cbt with a dozen therapists to boot. so i think i know a thing or two about my experiences with it#and overall its an unimpressive model (for me) as someone whos had a history with abuse and miscellaneous mental knickknacks rattling around#it's also frustrating because i genuinely like psych and i love learning about people#it's just. i'm tired of only being exposed to cbt (because i hate it honestly)#i feel similarly about cbt as i do with sigmund fucking frued#anyway i just want other insane people (affectionate) to remember that they deserve to not beat themselves up over this#if you're an insane person reading this: i love you i love you i love you i love you#i will share a slice of cake and homemade bread with you <3
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Every now and then I remember I am significantly older than the legalization of gay marriage in my country and I take psychic damage every time. I am not that old, like my life has just begun.
Just... Remember our rights didn't just descend from the heavens hundred of years ago. It is still a fresh memory, a blip compared to the timeline of the world.
#politics#gay#lgbt#lgbtq#gay complacency is forgetting just how much fighting we and our forefamily had to do to even GET to that point#and it's forgetting just how recently it happened that we got tgese protections. and they unfortunately aren't set in stone#maybe that was harsh wording but Please... blood was shed for this cause. people died for us#people died for this cause#people threw themselves in front of the FDA to protest - literally die-ins#full disclosure that this is about the US - i am a USAmerican and won't be comfortable commenting on queer rights internationally#(internationally to me not that the US is the world)#i am fully aware that there are countries that have NO queer rights recognized or even entertained as a thought by the governments that be#and that's... tragic. there's genuinely no word strong enough for how heartbreaking and evil it is#and i do not have the ability to comment about it personally like it is my right to claim that pain
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This might be dramatic, but every time my phone downloads more useless apps (those gimmicky games, to boot) in updates, it's a reminder that, though I paid for this phone, it's not really mine. And that's a lot of what modern capitalism is, right? Endless buying, buying, buying, but no ownership. Very few things truly feel "my own," and that's because the things that are mine can't be controlled by a corporation. That's why crochet for me has been so fulfilling. I grew up never feeling like things were mine, and now I know what that's like. So now it's jarring to see when you buy shit that isn't yours, even outside of subscriptions.
I guess what got me was being told growing up that I'd own things - it wouldn't always be like this! I'd have my own things, my own time, my own space, and then learning they didn't actually mean I'd own things. It feels like childhood again in some ways, not truly owning things, and it's definitely affected my opinions about a whole lot of things.
#politics#maybe it's part of the abuse i faced where i was never permitted to have ANYTHING#i lived on borrowed time it felt like#like i know this is minor it's just indicative to me
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I'm going to be real, I've been on testosterone for multiple years and my levels have been very consistently high and whatnot, and yet I haven't gotten to the point where my testosterone "makes" me act in possessive, creepy ways toward women. Not even the women who are drop-dead gorgeous to me!
And that's because it's not about testosterone. It's about the way you choose to interact with women. When you devalue them already, no amount of testosterone is going to influence you further.
#feminism#misogyny#misogyny tw#'he cant help it - it's the testosterone!' is not the save people think it is#weirdly enough i think the women in my life started coming to me even more after starting testosterone#as in i earned a level of trust in them that they started opening up a whole lot about their frustrations and feelings and experiences#and it hits weird as a guy sometimes like i have dual thoughts on it in some senses but like#it really isn't hard to earn their trust when... you prove you're trustworthy#i'll see a GORGEOUS woman and think 'oh wow' and go about my life like. it isn't hard.#i know women already know this but also... i've got the Testosterone Experience. the Qualifications (lighthearted)
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Periodic reminder from your friendly neighbourhood gymbro: The work you put in will come back. If you modify your workouts, the reward will still come to you.
So do knee pushups (no, we're not calling them "girl pushups"). Do weight machines. Put the resistance or weight low on machines.
The reward of fitness still benefits you because fitness is not a punishment. It should never be used or seen as a punishment for existing. Fitness is just... part of existence for many of us. However your fitness looks is fine. Don't let the broader fitness culture tell you that you need to do things their way. You'll be fine with what you're doing. If you stop needing modifications as you start doing more intense workouts, great! But if you never stop using modifications, then that's fine because fitness isn't a punishment or admittance of failure.
#anti fitness culture#anti diet culture#positivity#gentle reminders#i use the weight machines and i still benefit because i put in the work just the same as if i did free weights#i've INCREASED my weights significantly since starting#i lift more than my body mass regularly on some of these machines - how is that not improvement?#i love being a non-toxic gymbro <3#BACK TO MY WORKOUT#also i'm like... sixty pounds away from maxing out a couple of the leg machines. like i have been IMPROVING#like guys. please be normal to yourself about your fitness level PLEASE
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If you hate your body, do not achieve the body you want out of hate.
I know what you're thinking: starve yourself, run yourself into the ground, faster cardio, no carbs, no sugar.
You're reaching a perceived level of health at the expense of your actual health. If you expedite the process without doing the internal work, you're fucked. Now, I know there's some people who are finally happy and, uh, thinner body and I'm not talking to you, okay? Please, separate yourself from the equation and listen to what I'm saying.
It is so much more rewarding if you just improve your lifestyle. I just got my 10,000 steps on this beautiful day. I didn't do it to burn calories, I did it because I get to. I'm gonna go train legs now, I fucking love squatting and deadlifting! I love being strong! I have more time today, so I'm gonna take my time to cook a delicious, nutritious lunch. I'm not grinding, I'm not fasting, I'm not just having protein. I'm not doing burpees in-between my sets.
When you do this from an extreme standpoint, you're abandoning your quality of life. Therefore, you'll be more resentful. And because you're so resentful, you'll constantly be looking for validation, and it will never be good enough, and you'll be chasing a body that's impossible to reach 'cause your standards are too high. Just chase health! It's so much more rewarding, and you don't have to answer to fucking anybody!
#anti diet culture#disordered eating tw#disordered eating mention tw#eating disorder tw#eating disorder mention tw#long post#ough i needed this#this is the one 'gymbro' i follow because he's real#and as a man i love seeing him be vulnerable about his own body dysmorphia and his disordered eating...#...not that i love that he went through that#i was kind of heartbroken when he mentioned the burpee part. the casualness with which he talked about it...#...like it was so common for him to do that it was blasé and normal? that stuck out to me#honestly i want more men to talk about their experiences like he does or at least i wish we could normalize it#this took forever to transcribe because i would watch like 0.2 seconds in instagram then come back here 💀#i've been saying this
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