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People are now calling aros homophobic for saying "love loses" and disliking the phrase "love is love"

I don't dislike the phrase "love is love" because I'm aro and I hate the concept of love and I want to trample on queer joy and I don't understand the meaning behind love is love.

I dislike the phrase "love is love" because I don't believe that minorities should have to say "we're just like you!" In order to be accepted. I dislike it because it doesn't apply to all queer people, (including bisexuals, gays, lesbians, etc) but people treat it like it does. I dislike it because it's a product of a sex-negative society that deems queer people to be disgusting sex pests and instead of going "that's fucked up because there's nothing wrong with sex" people go "that's fucked up because we're not like those dirty disgusting predators who want sex without romance (coughalloaroscough)". I dislike it because arophobia is rampant in the queer community and people will throw us under the bus for points and have. (Stonewall UK posted a tweet acknowledging aros during aro week and other queer people called us predators and implied we were cishet invaders) I dislike it because the word love is shoved onto aros and whenever we say "please don't" people just redefine it to force it on us. I dislike it because there are better alternatives. I dislike it because rainbow capitalism has taken it over. I dislike it because it just feels a bit overused and cliche at this point. I dislike it for plenty of reasons, from legitimate to petty. Because I'm a person, not an evil aro who wants to destroy the queer community.

Aros, for a very long time, have had the word love used against us as a tool for our oppression. (Yes, love can be used to oppress people) And a lot of aros are sick of not being represented in queer spaces. The community puts so much emphasis on romantic love in an effort to not be the stereotypical sex obsessed queer but that leaves out aros. And people will be like "it's to uplift gays, bis, and lesbians" but there are aromantic gays, bis, and lesbians! I'm an aromantic bisexual person! I am directly harmed by the whole "we're not dirty sex pests, we can love (romantically) just like you!"

I, and many other aros, dislike the phrase love is love because it leaves us behind in the dirt. We often feel like the dirty side of queerness that no one wants to acknowledge. Saying "queer love is real love" isn't a bad thing, but having that be the one and only thing queer people ever talk about leaves out a portion of the community and we're allowed to talk about it.

"Love is love" doesn't represent me as a bisexual aromantic person. Not everything has to represent or include me but it would be nice if just one thing did. My version of queer joy is not represented by love is love and I just want a fucking alternative that does include it!

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happy love loses wednesday to all who celebrate <2

Happy love loses day to all my fellow arospec and acespec whovians!

nothing but respect for the disco elysium girlies but every time I have seen a canon interaction between those two middle aged men there has been the most gaping absence of homoerotic tension I have ever seen in my entire life. every single time the disaster man is like “i tripped and got my dick stuck in the chernobyl elephant’s foot” and the french guy is like “pardon me detective but have you considered that you’re a stupid fucking dumbshit idiot”

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JUST FOUND OUT THE AROMANTIC TAG IS #1 ON TUMBLR LET'S FUCCCKKKIIIIIINGGG GO AROMANTICSS

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HAPPY LOVE LOSES WEDNESDAY TO ALL WHO CELEBRATE

I made this blog when I was 15, after discovering that I'm aromantic at 14. I want to let every aromantic person out there that you can be happy. And that your true friends will be in your life and be part of your support system no matter if they are dating someone or not. You can be happy, you can have all kinds of relationships and have a support network as an aromantic person. The real friends don't abandon you when they get into romantic relationships. You can be happy and have connections and have community as an aromantic person.

I care about you and I know you will see this come to fruition in your life.

Signed, a 22 year old aro

anti-valentines but not in a depressed "boo-hoo I don't have a romantic partner :(" allo way but in a joyful loveless aro way

HEY IT'S THE 14TH. YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS. IT MEANS IT'S TIME TO GET ARO-ER. TIME FOR ALL ARO TAGS TO GO TRENDING.

AGAIN.

Somebody gift Rody a brush man his hair don’t make no sense 😭

Anyway me when the plate becomes dead or whateva

The thing about love is that I've met many people, and each and every one of them had a different definition of the word love. But, the thing that they all agreed on was that love is what made someone human, or good, or that it was the most important thing in life. The issue here is that by saying "love is what makes us human" it creates an "us and them" dynamic based on what that person defines as "love". And that's very dangerous.

The "us and them" dynamic has been used as a tool of oppression since the dawn of civilization. Whether you like it or not, whether you think your definition of love is correct or not, for a very long time the definition of love has been used to dehumanize and oppress people. Instead of dismantling the root cause of what allowed people to do that, you're just redefining the word love to include more people in "us". And I think that's really fucked up.

One of the ways that homophobes demonized queer people is that they said queer love wasn't real love and that the only real love was between a man and a woman. Yeah, that definition of love isn't correct and it's objectively wrong to describe it that way, but why does not feeling "real" love make someone bad?

As an aromantic person, I've been subjected to that "us and them" dynamic my entire life. Many people in the modern age still think that romantic love is what makes someone human. I think that we should be dismantling the idea that a subjective, vague word that can be redefined so easily is the bridge between "human" and "not human".

There's many ways to describe the full spectrum of human emotion. Love isn't the only word to describe kindness, care, and affection. The word "love" isn't nearly as important as you think it is.

Nothing "makes us" human. Humanity is in our DNA and no one should be treated less like a human for any reason.