So, just curious how many writers and creators will have to be forcibly outed by relentless harassment before we acknowledge that "This queer characters was written by a cishet person and that's why they're bad" is not good criticism.

I have a gripe about the Star Trek mugs...

Picard's teacup is a delicate, fragile little thing held by a strip of plastic and a dream. That thin glass will break if you look at it sideways. And where do they put that ridiculous tiny cup? On the Enterprise, which is always being dragged into conflict

The DS9 raktajino mugs are hefty, wide-based things that are meant to not tip over. They're called no-spill mugs. They have a foam piece on the bottom so they don't slip. They're incredibly sturdy – meant for ships and traveling! Where do they put them? At the station, which is arguably the most stable place they could be cause DS9 rarely gets knocked about.

Far as I'm concerned, Janeway's the only one doing practical space mugs correctly. Come on, a metal travel mug that's as strong as her coffee is black? Takes a beating through 70,000 light years of bridge shakes fighting off the Borg and the Hirogen and still holds a hot drink? Now that's a space mug

Listen, listen I love Plus Size Lily Evans, glorious headcanon absolutely, however, SOME of you are making her plus size just for the sake of making her insecure, which is odd guys, plus size Lily is like one of my favorite headcanons too, but making her plus size JUST for the sake of making the whole “Lily fell first she just thought James was messing with her” thing work?? Odd, veeery odd

Lily Evans means the world to me and I honestly in my personal opinion hate the “she fell first, he fell harder” trope with jily, let her not like him, let Lily wait till James Potter changes into someone different from the annoying boy that was mean to her best friend, into someone who was kind, let years of James PINING (not harassing her PINING because also the headcanon that he harassed her on the daily is NOT cute) go by before Lily finally agrees to go on a date with him. Let Lily be her own character damn it >:(

Don’t even get me started on making her plus sized just for her PARTNERS to be upset with her body?? That’s just?? Literally all of the ships with Lily, would not care that she’s plus size, you can name any of them and I will back up my point and be right, not even SNAPE would (controversial take I know) care about that, also to add I am not a snily shipper I just can’t imagine young Snape caring all that much about Lily’s weight, still cannot stand older Snape though, I am not a snily shipper at ALLLL. Also, are you telling me you think that JAMES FLEAMONT POTTER wouldn’t WORSHIP the ground Lily walked on?? That’s insane, that man was the most whipped a man could be

Also, name me any other ship with Lily and I assure you they would absolutely also worship the ground she walked on even if she was plus size. James? Already covered. Pandora? Ab-so-lutely head over heels. Dorcas? Idiotic question.

Lily Evans is just THAT girl, let her embrace her body PLEEEEAAASEEE

Anyways, stan plus size Lily Evans for clear skin

emerald fennell will get on her zoom and say [posh voice] Nooo no darling the rich people are the worrssstt. You’re supposed to side with the povvo. referring to the 130 minute film she helmed in which a family of prejudiced but loveable aristocrats are murdered and usurped by an upper middle class lunatic

You know Andrea Davenport's intense hatred of her name being mispronounced? It's a particular, notable quirk of her character. This small error brings out the absolute worst in her; in her introductory episode she's much crueller and more of an active bully, enforcing the total social exclusion of Molly, instead of simply self-absorbed and insensitive but ultimately good at heart as she has been since, all because Molly accidentally says her name wrong more than once in their first meeting.

Why? The correct pronunciation of Andrea in her case is the less common one (and therefore seems posher), and less intuitive based on the spelling. It's quite reasonable that someone would say the other pronunciation more than once out of instinct. She can surely intellectually understand that. So why is this such a big issue for her?

Well, a lot of her bad behaviour can be explained by her parents' behaviour. Her father can be selfish and greedy in regards to his business, and while Andrea is spoiled materially and financially, both her parents routinely ignore and emotionally neglect her to pay more attention to their work, social media and image. When she focuses excessively on herself and her reputation, she's directly imitating her two first and most influential role models. Maybe if she makes the family and their brand look good enough, she'll be good enough for them to give her their time. Maybe if she's exactly like them, they'll be more interested in her. They're always interested in themselves, after all.

What if her parents are so neglectful that they can, at least on occasion, accidentally get their own daughter's name wrong?

Imagine an episode about Andrea where Molly is either observing her without her knowledge like in "The Don't-Gooder", or hanging out with her in a normal way, since she is her "best friend" now in Andrea's own words. Andrea is talking to her parents, who are looking at their phones and only half-listening.

Then her mother or father distractedly mispronounces her name, or even calls her a different name like Annie or something. Molly gasps, bracing for how badly Andrea will react. Her parent doing it is far more insulting than a stranger doing it!

But Andrea barely reacts at all. She's stung, dejected, but not angry. Resigned. She doesn't even bring it up. Like this is frequent enough that she doesn't think that her literal parents remembering how to say the name they chose for her or even the name itself would be a guarantee.

She doesn't have much power over her parents. Not the kind that will sway them to meet her basic emotional needs. But as she learned early on in life, thanks to her wealth, beauty and charisma she can exert power over her peers, and later the general public and her fanbase. So she is going to make damn well sure that everyone else refers to her correctly. And if they don't, she'll subject them to the most painful, degrading treatment she can conceive of: being ignored.

Her name thing set the whole plot of the second episode into motion. Can you imagine, after how firmly it was established, the impact on Molly and the audience of Maxwell Davenport saying, "That's nice, Angela" and Andrea's only response being reserved, familiar hurt?

@fallen-gravity

The whole "if a person is mad at you it's their responsibility to tell you" thing just made me realize how fucked my situation is. Like just. woah

@heartofstanding tagged me in this meme months ago and unfortunately it took me this long to get to it because I had a mild crisis over how long it's been since I've read a novel, let alone one that I loved 😅 so this is nine of my favourite novels (not books, because if I included manga/short stories/comics/etc this would be giant)

0The Picture of Dorian Gray -- Oscar Wilde// Pyrrhus-- Mark Merlis//The Scarecrow--Ronald Hugh Morrieson//Unnatural History--Kate Osman//Tunnels of Blood--Darren Shan//The Coffin Dancer--Jeffery Deaver//Hero--Perry Moore//Frankenstein--Mary Shelley//One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest-- Ken Kasey

Thinking to myself “man it’s a good thing there nine mechanisms to project my disabilities onto, wouldn’t want people to think I’m headcanoning them to have an unrealistic amount of issues.” When it’s like, I have all these issues! And some people have way more comorbidities than me!

5 year dog plan updates: I think I've identified a breed (and 3 potential breeders), I have more clearly figured out what I don't want and what my life style will not fit and most important I need more experience with dogs in general

i have a very specific anzu and rei dynamic in my brain and i have no idea how to say what it is but just like. anzu non verbal autistic + rei is really fucking good at reading her for no reason. has been from the start. she stares at people like the tbh creature and rei just lurks behind her like a fucked up ghost. anzu sniffs wrong and he's like "ah she is overstimulated and i must take her home immediately" and just does

i feel insane i feel so insane. i feel so goddamn fucking insane. feels like my sisters won't allow me to even be civil to them anymore every interaction ends up with all 3 of them insulting me and when I tell them shit like "you're being mean" or "i don't think that criticism is coming from a place of love" they just try and justify themselves and insult me more. no one is on my side but I'm so so convinced that if an outside party came and observed what was happening they would see i'm being bullied. maybe i am insane. maybe there's a reason no one is on my side. i know i'm not perfect but goddamn. i love them so much and it feels like they hate me. i can say the world's most neutral statement ever and one of them'll have a snide and insulting comment about it and then everyone acts like i'm being unreasonable if i react. and again if i call them out and i say "you're being mean. do you not see what you're doing? you're being mean." they all just get excused bc apparently me having a hard time with filtering what i say and having debilitating executive dysfunction is "traumatizing" and their bullying is a trauma response. and they won't let me even fix my behavior bc if i say something that contradicts my past behavior they'll be like "oh so NOW u care about that. you don't actually care 🙄" can i do fucking anything. can i do fucking ANYTHING.

(through gritted teeth) my big sister's coming back from washington next week. next week she's coming back from washington. i think she'll be able to recognize what's happening, right? like if they do it in front of my parents then they'll probably do it in front of her too. but ofc my parents don't care. they are actively against my side in this.

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yesterday bc my bday is coming up I lovingly sent a text to my most beloved sister saying that she could remind my mum not to get me a gendered card and had a moment where I was like “does my brother know my pronouns” 

and then immediately recalled he does not bc I walked into his room once and was like “hey you know how I’m not straight” as a precursor and he was like “no??” and I was so taken aback by his blindness that I was like “huh! well now you do!” and walked out without clarifying anything at all

anyway i caught up on spy x family within the last 24 hours and i'm fucking in love with it

Ngl man..this made me snort laughing

Exclusive Memory (獨家記憶) (2019) is the BLUEPRINT for romance i can't do this anymore every single episode i'm blushing and giggling and kicking my legs and silently screaming into my pillow and clutching my heart this is truly getting ridiculous and i will die miserable and alone because i will never have what they have!!!!!!!!!!!!!!