"You can't just ignore, or be neutral about syscourse!"

Yes you can, just because somebody has a disability and wants to be involved in the community, doesn't mean they have to constantly fight with fakeclaimers, or endos, etc etc.

People are allowed to just chill out, have a nice time.

A lot of people cannot take threats and such, if they fight, they will be getting threats and such. I can handle threats, I can handle people being ignorant, but many people cannot handle that, and that is why they should not involve themselves in discourse.

I'm not claiming anybody is weak, systems are very strong people, and you won't ever be able to truly understand the horrors they went through that caused them to be one. They are the opposite of weak.

Don't feel invalid because you can't involve yourself in this constant war. Take a breather for yourself.

"Having friends in your head must be so fun!!"

Okay, say it's fun when someone that isn't you takes over your body and decides to do something horrid? Not necessarily a crime, but say, broke up with your lover(s), or cut you off from your entire family.

We're all mentally unstable, at any moment one of us can just decide to commit and it's the end.

It's not fun. It's scary.

Especially because not all of us are "friends", many of us simply get along because we are stuck together.

—Kluk

being pro-endo conflicts with punk values. you cannot be punk and support endos

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plural culture is theres been a name for our switches this entire fucking time and its called non-possessive and now im pissed because this made up like 70% of our self doubt AND ITS HAD A WORD . THERE WAS A WORD THIS WHOLE TIME AND WE DIDNT KNOW ARE YOUFUCKINGNKIDGNMEEMEEEEEEEEE

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I’m a human being. I feel like some of you that come through here don’t realize that. I’m a human being. I have my own struggles.

I know I say things that end up being hot takes, such as my most recent thing saying that someone will always be disordered even once they heal (remission does not make the disorder go away).

But if your first thing is to tell me things that are rage and anger filled, take a step back. I’m not mad, but your words do hurt people.

I do not see how me saying my views of saying the disorders I deal with remind me of leeches because of how much they take of me is so easily thrown into me being called the leech and a pessimistic asshole. But where does your rage come from? Why throw it to someone else?

It’s good to not throw it to you, but there’s always people hurting on the other side of a screen.

I only ask that everyone here understand that, as much as I hate to actually confirm it, you’re still talking to a suicidal person. Sure, I make fun of things in my ask box, but if your friend was dealing with the same thing and got all of that and they couldn’t handle it, would you be upset, too? That someone you care about is struggling so much and yet, someone wants to harm them further?

With this, I’m cleaning my entire inbox out. I know there’s vents and questions, I will not be answering them, asks will be off until I am not drained from taking care of children all day.

And until I feel like everyone can understand that I’m still a human being.

But also because I don’t want to continuously lie and say I’m fine when I’m not.

Sympathy isn’t a bad thing, and I’m not asking for it. But understand where your rage is going, where it comes from, and why you think it is a good thing to harm others. I see your pain, and I understand, but what good does it do to fling your words towards others you don’t even know?

Please, understand.

I say this with no malice but as a very, very tired individual.

If your link to prove a point calls it "MPD" you're wrong.

Because the understanding of personality disorders completely differs from the understanding of dissociative disorders.

If the research is on the basis it is a personality disorder it has *nothing* to do with the understanding of it as a dissociation disorder.

Your point is naught. You are wrong and should understand medical text and how disorders get classified, researched, and understood.

It disturbs me to no end that it is easier for teenagers to end up in Discord servers full of people who will convince them that they were abused by shadowy international groups than it is for these same teenagers to get actual professional help for the trauma they actually do have.

It's upsetting that there's a trend of teenagers who are more willing to accept that they were internationally trafficked for their entire childhoods than they are to accept that maybe their parents weren't perfect, or that they were physically/emotionally/sexually abused in a non-organized context, or that they do not have trauma histories to begin with.

It's disheartening that young people seem to think that OEA is the only "valid" form of abuse, that DID is the only "valid" mental illness, and that they have to exaggerate what actually happened to them and the conditions they actually have.

You do not have to have gone through OEA to be traumatized. You do not have to have DID to be mentally ill and in need of support. OEA is not the only thing that can traumatize a person. DID is not the only mental illness that deserves recognition and help (on that note, can we stop treating depression and anxiety as if they are "lesser" mental illnesses?).

Furthermore, it's OKAY to realize and accept that you do not have DID or trauma. Being dissociative and having trauma is not the norm. It should not be easier to believe that you have a history of extreme and organized abuse than it is to assume that your childhood was normal.

And as someone who did go through OEA, I can tell you that it is difficult to come to terms with what happened to me. I spend a lot of time wondering what my life could've been like otherwise, and wishing that I did not have a trauma history. So I hope you'll understand when I say it's bizarre to see minors blindly accepting that they went through OEA when they did not.

We've made a post with the tag "endos dni" and guess what? They still did.

Endos try to respect boundaries challenge: impossible

Real,, like it's right there, right in the tags..

[TEXT ID: this system has several personality disorders and may struggle to realise, on their own, when they've done something wrong]

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systems, if you have a villain fictive, do you ever feel guilty for their crimes? i am very struggling with guilt that is not mine rn. help

Sometimes being a system is convincing uur dad to buy hot wheels for one of the littles.

Sometimes being a system is crying at 3 am BCS U got triggered

Sometimes being a system is smiling so hard Ur cheeks hurt BCS someone called you by your own name

Sometimes being a system is giving your younger sibling everything in the hopes that they grow up better than you did

Sometimes being a system is walking in circles because you don't remember why you stood up

Sometimes being a system is not knowing who you are

Sometimes being a system is hugging your body and knowing that you exist to love it

Sometimes being a system is mourning the person you could have been

Sometimes being a system is loving the people you are

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Hey so final fusion doesn't mean u no longer have OSDDID lol

You need to be in that state without splitting for 10 years to be "cured"

Saying this since once again people are confused about WHAT final fusion is.

Don't demonise it either, for some it's what they want over functional multiplicity and it's achievable for them. Don't demonise someone's recovery just because it isn't what you want.

Plural with MaDD culture is "did I actually have this interaction with an alter or did I daydream it? How much of this is headspace and how much is daydreaming? Is any of this system stuff or am I just daydreaming? Am I really daydreaming or is it system stuff? You'd think figuring this out would be easy."

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I’m making a post about this.

Someone that has fully fused or is functionally multiple is STILL DISORDERED. This disorder impairs people in different ways. To say that it doesn’t is invalidating and harsh because you cannot tell how someone is impaired by being on social media.

You do not lose the disorder once you’ve gotten help to process trauma. That trauma is still there. You still fit the criteria for OSDDID even with healing. You don’t lose the disorder magically.

Someone who has reached final fusion still has the trauma responses to split because of that trauma and stressors. OSDDID is a LIFELONG disorder.

For those that believe that someone who heals doesn’t stay disordered, please do more research as you are wrong.

If someone has, for say, a personality disorder that personality disorder will stay for their ENTIRE life. The same is with a DISSOCIATIVE DISORDER.

It is a disorder for a reason. A child’s brain has fragmented to cause alters. To tell someone who has been impaired and unable to function that no matter what path they go down for healing, they will not be disordered is wrong and I suggest looking through medical documentation again.

You will always be disordered. There is no way to magically heal past a disorder that is life long, it will always be there. It can be helped but it will not go away.

You will never stop being disordered.

For the person in my comments trying to tell me that someone will go from being disordered to not fitting the OSDDID criteria to, potentially, no longer having PTSD which is COMMON TO HAVE with OSDDID, please get your facts straight. You will harm a community and survivors with your thoughts and misinformation. Please, do the research.

Once you have a disorder, there is no going back. It stays like a leech. You cannot get rid of that leech. To think you can is wrong.

Microdosing polyamory by dating a system