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genderqueerdykes · 3 days
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there really is a cultural pressure for transmascs & men to detransition, and it comes from all sides. it comes from the queer community too, not just terfs and cishet transphobes.
it took me a while to realize why transphobic people and transandrophobic queers utterly despise trans guys & mascs who are over the age of like 25- it's because it pisses them right off that we've resisted their attempts to make us detransition. it makes them so angry to see they were unable to groom that person into a life of self-shame and repression. it really seems like MOST people believe that trans men will just detransition eventually in life? people NEVER think about older trans men, only teenage trans boys and trans men in their very early twenties.
when i was involved with my local punk scene i was addressed with condescension, almost everyone around me didn't accept transmasculinity as a legitimate identity and thought that we would've transitioned by now in life. i encountered folks who would talk about transmasculinity with subtle disgust that made me feel like i was doing something wrong, and people who expressed overt disgust, saying in plain english that they were disgusted by breasts and vaginas because they were gay men. all along the way i was literally mocked for not having a penis, and one of my roommates started treating me differently once they found out i didn't have one (because they were attracted to me)
i've been on T for 9 years, and been out as a trans man for a bit longer than that, and i noticed as i've aged i've also attracted a lot of folks who have tried to deter me from identifying as a trans man, either through directly telling me that trans men are inherently dangerous, or by implying that women or another gender are safer, quieter, calmer, "less traumatizing to be around," etc. one of my exes told me they were terrified to date me (despite literally going out of their way to do so for over half a year) because they were scared i would be transphobic to them because i'm a transmasculine lesbian.
i received pressure from online friends to either detransition and become an intersex butch woman, or to something feminine adjacent or nonbinary. for years i dealt with a few friends who kept subtly hinting that i should stop identifying as a trans man or trans masc because of how awful transmascs are- going as far as to sending me screenshots of transmascs speaking, complaining about them and calling them whiny, annoying. talking about how all transmascs are entitled, how all transmascs take things too personally, how we complain too much, and so on.
people make no effort to make space for transmascs and men. i met 0 transmascs in my local punk community that i was able to stay in contact with. none. i met a few in passing but none that actually were introduced to me in a capacity where i could actually try to befriend them. it really felt like other punks in the scene were desperately trying to keep the transmascs apart at times. excuses were made as to why i couldn't hang out with other transmascs i liked, but i was constantly being forced to befriend transphobic cis gay men and transandrophobic transfemmes who outwardly expressed hatred and disgust of us. it really felt like it was on purpose... almost as if other members of this community wanted our attention, but never wanted us to give each other attention or a sense of community. like we were objects, not people to be included in the community for real. satellite friends, if you will.
i'll be honest with you. i was at my lowest at this point. i realized i wasn't just a trans man and that i'm a genderqueer person who experiences multiple genders, including womanhood and an "other" gender, which was great. however now i was being forced to completely stuff down being a man for the sake of other people. instead of folks telling me they'd rather not hang out with transmascs, folks rather just attempted to guilt me for identifying as such in the hopes i'd stop identifying that way. i was being told daily that trans men and mascs are inherently violent and terrible to be around. i was in discord servers where transmascs were being kicked constantly for getting even slightly upset about transandrophobia, or being unfairly targeted by staff.
it's violence, but nobody wants to call it that. i pulled myself out of there and am now able to contact other transmascs and trans men who are proud of who they are and have elevated me back into a headspace where it's okay to truly be myself. just keep in mind that if you feel like you're in that situation, you're not alone. people who attempt to groom others are often very subtle it's not always up front. they will start slipping in hateful sentiments very slowly and make you feel like maybe they're the ones who are actually right.
it feels good to be an almost 32 year old trans guy. there's nothing to be ashamed about there. people project their feelings on to my gender and that has nothing to do with me. it has nothing to do with you, either. people will just project on to you for whatever reason- hatred is usually the motivator there. if you encounter folks who keep trying to badger you out of identifying as your gender, no matter who you are, transmasc, transfemme, transneutral, trans anything- they are not good for you. they are not your friends. they do not accept you as you are and you deserve so much better.
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"Cassie and Laurie" by Honey Lee Cottrell, 1985.
source: Nothing But the Girl: The Blatant Lesbian Image, edited by Susie Bright and Jill Posener
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altxmasc · 3 days
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How unfortunate I just got off of work and didn’t come home to a beautiful femme I can wrap my arms around.
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the-bot-named-r0z · 2 days
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My derailleur got fucked up and I had to replace it, she shifts better than before
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bratprincedyke · 2 days
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Lesbian iconography Ldov tattoo flash sheet I made and never posted on here
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disappointeddyke · 12 hours
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Fresh cut feel
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prncss-peach · 2 days
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just wanted to show off my butch
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whimsicallesbian · 1 day
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thinking about watching a pretty girl touch herself for me while I praise her for doing such a good job and tell her how pretty her pussy is and how hot she looks making herself feel good for me 🥰
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carebear-butch · 2 days
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good hair day :3
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"Kimo Getting Lucky" by Jessica Tanzer, 1989
source: Nothing But the Girl: The Blatant Lesbian Image, edited by Susie Bright and Jill Posener
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punkeropercyjackson · 23 hours
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Good piece of advice for wether telling a character is butch or femme:Are they actually masculine or are they just overtly strong?Are they actually feminine or are they just overtly soft?It'll help tons both in headcanons and real life,trust
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jenjen4280 · 24 hours
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Date night at Audi Field watching the Washington Spirit v Angel City. Nice to spend some time with my Boo.
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bratprincedyke · 2 days
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Wear a slutty little cropped vest of ur fav documentary
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thyfleshc0nsumed · 2 days
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A custom collar for @yaknowlikenyah :3 !!! I was so happy I finally got use out of these kitty stamps
Pansy-Leatherwork.com
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